Comments on: Kidnapped by a parent in India

By: Isa the iguana

Isa the iguana — Wed, 04 Jan 2012 23:41:33 +0000

Dora, you are the man/woman I’ve ever heard. ‘problems do arise in any relationship but they need to get resolved not dissolved’ gets the lamest comment of the century award!!!!

Have you ever been beaten, raped, been called a whore for no apparent reason? Go ask a woman who has been and she will tell you if problems like these should be resolved or dissolved!!!! I bet you are sitting on your comfy sofa and Seeing life through your shades. Go work with an NGO to see the plight of these women and then come back here and comment again.

By: Lekhni

Lekhni — Wed, 15 Dec 2010 02:25:27 +0000

Sruthi, I am so sorry to hear of your situation I think you should consult an attorney on issues regarding custody. Wishing you the best!

By: Sruthi

Sruthi — Sun, 12 Dec 2010 21:07:36 +0000

I am facing similar situation. My husband filed for divorce in USA. and we have 1 year old kid born in USA. My H1 visa expires next year. What is the situation of my chld when my Visa expires? How can I take the kid back to India with out any legal issues of parent kidnapping from my husband. Please advice

By: dora

dora — Sun, 27 Jun 2010 03:27:33 +0000

Lekhini seems mentally sick. Problems does arise in any relationship and one needs to look for the solution rather than dissolution. The words that you are using ABUSIVE HAPPINESS…whatever are all relative terms. You are viewing the world with your spectacles. India has 5000 yrs of time tested tradition and culture. You are miniscule pygmy to criticise it. Tradition and culture evolves by shedding away the expired practices and adopting new one. It doesn’t mean that we need to go against the natural instincts and duties. Indian tradition evolves on the basis of what nature has given to us. Do not try to disturb it with senseless laws.

By: Shefaly

Shefaly — Thu, 31 Dec 2009 23:18:07 +0000

Lekhni: If the wife is not financially independent, and does not have money to hire attorneys etc, and then takes the child away to India, the child is effectively being used as a “bargaining chip”. It is not unusual in custody battles for the courts to order payment of costs of the other side as well as maintenance payments. I don’t see how the mother’s behaviour re the child is to be seen any different from or nobler than the father’s.

By: Shefaly

Shefaly — Thu, 31 Dec 2009 23:13:43 +0000

Lekhni: I think your assumption that the marriage was abusive towards the wife is a bit unfair. If the father’s decision to get his child abducted is a sign of aggression, as you mention to someone in a reply above, what would you call the mother’s behaviour? Surely that is hardly the behaviour of a helpless victim but rather of a bold woman who decides something and goes ahead and does it! How do we know who is to blame? Gone are the days when men were oppressors and women were sufferers. Crime and violence statistics of various kinds show that women are fast catching up with men.

In a recent case I read about in India just last week, a judge ordered a couple to sort their custody issues in UK courts, because at the time of the start of the custody battle they were resident in the UK. It may not be precedent-setting in the USA but is definitely precedent-setting in India. See: http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/world/south_asia/8407512.stm

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By: lekhni

lekhni — Wed, 16 Dec 2009 17:23:04 +0000

Okay, I need to clarify that sentence. I was not referring to myself there, I was talking about the guy in the article. I guess I should have written that as Looking at that guy as a dad who has been

I’m so glad to hear that. I wouldn’t want anyone to be in that kind of situation

Your 2nd point goes into the whole issue of arranged marriages. People marry after just one or two meetings (even when both of them are living in India) and yes, I too cannot see myself doing that But it seems to work for some, and anyway that, as you say, is a topic for another day.